Why I Encourage My Clients to Be Lazy

Stressmanagement
Written By Lena La

“I actually want you to be a little lazier.”

When women first start working with me, they usually laugh when I say this. They think I’m joking because most of them have spent years doing everything right. They eat healthy, they work out, they push through exhaustion, and they chase every new “PCOS fix” out there.

But when we look deeper, we see the same pattern:
Their hormones aren’t struggling because they’re lazy. They’re struggling because they’ve been running on stress hormones for too long.

And that’s when I tell them the truth no one explained before:
Your body doesn’t need more discipline. It needs less cortisol.

The Hidden Hormone Behind the Hustle

Cortisol is your main stress hormone the one that keeps you alert and alive.
You need it to wake up, focus, and respond to challenges.
But when your life becomes one long to-do list, cortisol stops being helpful and starts becoming harmful.

Cortisol is often a overlooked hormone in PCOS, even though it quietly controls everything:

  • It blocks ovulation when your body doesn’t feel safe.

  • It increases androgens, leading to acne and hair loss.

  • It disrupts insulin, making weight loss almost impossible.

  • And it suppresses thyroid and reproductive hormones, leaving you tired but wired.

So while you’re working harder, eating cleaner, and training more your body is quietly whispering,  “I’m too stressed to heal.”

How Cortisol Keeps You Stuck

Think about how most of us live:

  • We wake up already tense.

  • We skip breakfast, rush, and grab coffee.

  • We squeeze in a workout even when we’re exhausted.

  • We go to bed scrolling, worrying, overthinking.

Every one of those habits tells your brain: “We’re not safe.” And your body reacts exactly like it’s being chased by a tiger flooding your system with cortisol.

But unlike real danger, this stress never ends.
And that’s how cortisol slowly builds an environment where PCOS thrives high inflammation, irregular cycles, unstable blood sugar, and burnout.

Why “Lazy” Is the Medicine

Here’s the paradox:
The same women who call themselves lazy are often the ones burning out. They rest for one day and feel guilty as if healing means “doing less wrong.”

But the truth is, the more “lazy” time you give your body, the more it can finally shift out of survival mode.

“Lazy” doesn’t mean giving up. It means sending your body a different message: “You’re safe now. You can turn off cortisol.”

When you do that, magic starts happening:

  • Your cycle comes back.

  • Your skin clears up.

  • You have energy without caffeine.

  • You stop craving sugar all the time.

  • You finally start feeling good again.

That’s not laziness. That’s nervous system healing.

The Science of Slowing Down

When cortisol levels drop:

  • Your LH and FSH rebalance → your ovaries start ovulating again.

  • Insulin sensitivity improves → less belly fat and more stable energy.

  • Inflammation calms → acne, bloating, and cravings fade.

  • Mitochondria work better → your cells produce real, lasting energy.

This is why I tell my clients to stop chasing “balance” through control
and start creating it through rest, food, and calm.

How I Coach This “Lazy” Approach

Inside my coaching, “lazy” is actually a healing strategy.
We rebuild your foundations instead of adding more pressure:

  • Sleep & rhythm: create evening routines that reset cortisol overnight.

  • Eat to feel safe: no under-eating or skipping meals; stable blood sugar → stable cortisol.

  • Smart movement: training that supports hormones, not punishes your body.

  • Nervous system reset: breathwork, morning sunlight, emotional regulation.

  • Mindset: unlearning the “fix yourself harder” story that keeps your body stressed.

The result?

You start feeling you again - calm, strong, hormonally stable.

If you have PCOS and you’re exhausted from trying everything, maybe the answer isn’t more willpower. Maybe it’s less fight. Your body doesn’t heal under pressure. It heals in peace. And sometimes, the most productive thing you can do… is absolutely nothing.

So yes, I encourage my clients to be lazy.
Because “lazy” is what your hormones have been begging for all along.


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